Our male bosses punish us for refusing their sexual advances

Firstclass newsline learnt that after 35 years of service, she
retired as a deputy superintendent from the Nigeria Police Force,
while her squad mates did as superintendents, assistant commissioners
and deputy commissioners. Wine glasses were raised up on the day they
retired, all laughing and dancing to have served in the Force and
retired alive, and not killed while on the job. Some others were not
that lucky. Nonetheless, she wasn't happy and maybe she still isn't.
Thirteen years are gone now since her retirement, but anytime she
remembers the treatments meted out to her by her male bosses, the
agony returns. But for the passion she had for the job, she would have
long quit, but she stood up against them, fought them with everything
at her disposal – for the most years she spent in the Force.
They were bent on frustrating her – and they succeeded, at least to some extent.
First, her promotion through the ranks was always delayed; second, her
name was dropped at least twice from the inspectorate and assistant
superintendent of police calls – promotional training courses for
members of the Force; and finally, she was always asked to perform
duties that were below her capability and strength.
Whether her female colleagues succumbed to the threats of their senior
male colleagues for them to have retired at higher levels in the Force
than her, she couldn't tell. "What I know is that I kept myself pure,
I never compromised," she looked in the eyes of our correspondent and
managed to flash a brief smile.
Clara – not her real name – joined the Nigeria Police Force when she
was around 25. The Enugu State indigene, who pleaded not to be named
for fear of being a target of attack, was young, pretty, slim, with a
chocolate skin colour and a great dress sense. Unknown to her, these
qualities endeared her to many of her male bosses. "I was getting too
much attention from almost every senior male officer, and before I
knew what was happening, I was being asked out by most of them. It
took a while for me to know I was going to pay dearly for turning down
their proposals," she said.
She joined as a recruit, a spinster at that time, and immediately, she
became a victim of sexual harassment. To make matters worse, she
didn't marry a policeman, which she said could have helped in stopping
the harassment, but she chose to marry someone else, her true lover.
She said, "It was my passion while growing up to be a police officer.
I just loved anyone in uniform. Thankfully, I had the requirements to
join, so I applied and it was successful. I joined as a recruit at
that time. But it wasn't funny. I started becoming an object of
attraction from my male bosses, which I really didn't like. But it
wasn't mere attraction; they wanted to sleep with me. They asked me
out many times, tried to lure me through gifts and promises of speedy
promotion. I am glad to say it anywhere that I turned them down.
A victim
"To make it worse, I didn't marry a member of the Force. Another man
owned my heart. Probably if I had married a member of the Force – at
least one of those I got proposals from – it would have been easier.
The harassment wouldn't have been as tough as I experienced.
"It wasn't long before I realised I was going to pay for not giving in
to them. Many times I was posted to places like the police
cooperative, where my skills and knowledge were rendered useless. I
had the physique and the intellect to be at better posts, even in the
field. But they did not allow me to be at such posts. At least twice
they removed my name from the lists of officers to go and study
abroad. And to my surprise, they made it obvious to me that they were
punishing me for refusing to have sex with them."
These treatments ultimately led to her depression, but she found a way
around it to still get on, without letting it affect her work.
"When it was becoming too obvious that I was suffering from
depression, my husband asked me what was happening and I told him, but
he kept on encouraging me. Of course, he couldn't have done anything
to stop them if he wanted me to stay in the Force," she added. "He
reminded me of the passion I had for the job and that kept me on. So
at a point in time, after spending about 10 years in the Force, I got
used to the threats and developed a stronger mind. My squad mates all
left me behind because I was the only one that I knew whose promotion
was delayed. Today, I'm a victor; I fought and I won. I didn't let
them determine what happened to me."
Maybe she retired as a fulfilled police officer, but not as a happy
one – an assumption based on her expression when she spoke with
firstclass newsline in her Lagos residence on a cold evening past
weekend.
Caught between two options
Clara is retired now, but there are presently other female police
officers who are being sexually harassed by their male bosses; some of
them spoke to firstclass newsline on the issue on the condition of
anonymity.
They want to keep quiet – and say nothing about what they are passing
through, especially if they want to keep their jobs. They cannot write
petitions; they are scared – they said even if they do, the petitions
might eventually land on their bosses' tables, which could lead to an
end of their careers ultimately. They don't know whether they would be
believed even if they complain. Hence, they are living with it.
Some weeks ago, firstclass newsline crew approached two policewomen,
who retired in their booth after spending some time controlling the
traffic along the Lagos-Ikorodu Expressway, to seek their thoughts on
the issue. At first, they looked confused, but after being assured
that their identities were never going to be disclosed, they caved in,
and gave the source an address where they could talk about it.
Another victim
On the agreed day and time, they showed up in muftis.
"You can help us write about it, but don't ever quote us, don't show
our faces. Don't disclose where we live or our duty posts," one of the
two instructed. They agreed that the source could take their pictures
only if it would not implicate them in any way.
Deal was done.
One of them, a dark-skinned woman, probably in her late 30s, told our
correspondent that if she knew another job that was free of sexual
harassment from male colleagues and bosses, she would opt for it. "But
it is difficult getting such. Getting this one was not easy in the
first place, not to talk of looking for another one," she said.
When she was recruited into the Force a few years ago, she said she
had no idea that apart from having the right skills, her fate on the
job would depend on whether she could sleep with senior male officers.
She said, "I've been asked out several times by my bosses; they know
I'm married, yet they still want to sleep with me. This is not
something so strange to me because even before I joined the Force, it
happened. Men like to ask ladies out whether they are married or not;
they just don't care. Unfortunately, I cannot do it. I am a faithful
Christian and no matter the threat, I will never let them have their
way. It's not normal, I suppose.
"The only challenge I'm having right now is that my husband is not
here in Lagos, so many of them don't believe I am married. They
usually ask me to produce my husband; meanwhile, I am not the type who
wears wedding ring every time. I have told a senior female colleague
about this many times, seeking advice on what to do, but it's like
there is nothing to do than to either maintain my stand or compromise.
"She told me if I compromise, it would help my career, but if I don't,
I will be persecuted. I have chosen the latter. I can never sell my
body to climb the ladder of any career in life, no matter how juicy
the offer is. When you are here, you cannot write petition against any
boss like that, except if one is asking for trouble. A boss will
always be a boss. When the matter goes up, it will still come down and
one will be hurt more. That's what this is all about. I think it
happens in most organisations."
Yes, it does happen in many organisations in the world, but that
doesn't make it right, a Nigerian sociologist and marriage counsellor
who lives in the United States, Mrs. Kenny Oyediran, told firstclass
newsline viaFacebook.
She said, "It is not a new phenomenon, it's been happening for ages,
but because it is happening does not make it normal. Organisations of
today have to stop this immoral behaviour. As a society, we are losing
our sense of value almost every day and we are just sitting idly by,
doing nothing about it.
"Women who are harassed in their workplaces, do you think they would
have any self-esteem on the job? Would they be able to explore their
full potentials on the job? Would they be productive? The answer to
all these questions is 'no.' They would underperform, they would not
believe in whatever they are doing. They would be at the mercy of
their bosses. Their successes on the job would depend on their bosses.
It is just not normal.
"They are not going to be at their best on the job and service to the
country. If this is happening, which I don't doubt, then it is high
time it stopped. It is ungodly, evil, and devilish. Women should be
allowed to be themselves and get to the peak of their professions by
their own acts, not by how many male bosses they can sleep with.
Harassment and victimisation of women help no organisation, nor any
country."
Harassment endangers security of Nigerians
If female police officers could be allowed to explore their skills on
the job, maybe the security of Nigerians would be better off, a
security expert in Lagos, Mr. Peter Akanmu, said on the phone.
"Women can do amazing things if they are given the chance to prove
themselves, but in a situation where they are being harassed sexually
and victimised if they refuse to succumb, they will not be able to
explore their potentials. Such organisation as a whole will suffer,"
he said.
He added that the security of the country should be of priority to
every police officer and not thinking of how to sleep with their
female subordinates.
He said, "There are bad eggs in the system and we all know that; they
are the ones hindering the success of the Nigeria Police entirely.
Imagine someone whose name was dropped from overseas training list
because she was upright. If she had gone for such trainings, she would
have probably improved and contributed a lot more to the security of
the country in her own little way. She was denied the opportunity.
That's wickedness.
"Of course, it is possible that there are no proper channels for these
women to report these cases, due to the kind of corrupt system we
operate, so these women will live with the victimisation. Instead of
becoming great fighters, they become cowards."
Recently, there were reports of young Kurdish female fighters who took
up arms against ISIS.
According to the reports, instead of running away from their cities
and allowing the Islamic State terrorist group to destroy their lands,
the women picked up arms, stood up against them, and repelled the
terrorists.
Lives were lost, but they did not die as cowards.
"Even though that was not a workplace scenario, the point is, those
women had the chance to prove themselves. Nigerian policewomen can be
their best also if they are left to do the job without having to
compromise," he said.
It's a global phenomenon
Workplace harassment has become one of the most sensitive areas of
effective workplace management. In a report, it was stated that a
significant source of work stress is associated with aggressive
behaviours at workplace.
It was also stated that developing countries, including Nigeria, are
far behind other countries in that there are limited efforts to
investigate the questions on workplace harassment. It is almost unseen
and the managers are almost reluctant or unconscious about it.
Under occupational health and safety laws around the world, workplace
harassment and workplace bullying are identified as being core
psychosocial hazards.
A psychologist, Mrs. Moyo Owolabi, said depression and work stress are
often some of the by-products of sexual harassment.
"Such female officers need counselling and they should go for it. It
is sickening that you have a job you have passion for, but instead of
enjoying it, you are being harassed. It leads to depression, which
leads to low productivity. It is everywhere, but I hope the Nigeria
Police does something about this quickly," she said.
The other victim, who volunteered to speak to firstclass newsline,
said she was already looking for another job, in the absence of which
she would start a business, so as to escape the trauma.
"I cannot say I'm enjoying this anymore. If you cannot do what they
want, you are oppressed. If I get another job today, I'll quit," she
affirmed.
Perpetrators go unpunished
In a recent report by the source, it was found out that cases of
sexual harassment of policewomen by their superior officers are
usually not investigated or addressed by the police authorities.
According to the report, the phenomenon is rampant at the divisional
level, and is frequently perpetrated by Divisional Police Officers and
Divisional Crime Officers against their female subordinates.
However, investigations showed that a huge number of petitions against
DPOs and DCOs submitted to the Police Service Commission by the rank
and file have been largely unattended to by the commission.
An official, who spoke on the issue on the condition of anonymity,
explained that the police authorities do not bother to investigate
allegations of sexual harassment. He said many of such petitions by
female complainants had ended up in the dustbins.
He said, "There are so many cases of sexual harassment, especially at
the divisional police level; we have cases of DPOs forcing themselves
on junior female officers and if such a lady refuses, she would be
oppressed.
"If she agrees to the DPO's sexual advances, the DCO also would demand
for sexual gratification, but if she refuses, she would be oppressed
or punished and if she petitions the commission, the allegation would
not be investigated and the errant officer would not be queried or
punished."
Hope for victims?
A professor of law and human rights, Itse Sagay, said there are laws
guarding against sexual harassment in the workplace. He advised
victims of such to report the one who is harassing them to a senior
officer.
Sagay added that if, after reporting such matters to the appropriate
authorities, nothing is being done to address the situation, the
victims could sue the Force and seek redress legally.
"It is an infringement on their civil rights as employees. No one is
permitted to use their position in the workplace to intimidate their
female subordinates. If there is nothing done after they have written
petitions, such victims could sue the organisation," he said.
In a source report, the Police Service Commission, an arm responsible
for constituting actions against perpetrators, complained that there
were no funds to carry out its operations and maintain discipline in
the Force.
It was also learnt that the PSC does not have the capacity to probe
allegations of misconduct against police officers, but relies on the
police to probe themselves.
A senior official explained that whenever the PSC receives a petition
against a policeman, it would forward same to the Inspector-General of
Police, who would send it to the Command Commissioner of Police and he
(the CP) would in turn send the petition to the DPO who would then
dispatch it to the individual involved.
"Usually, the PSC doesn't get a feedback on such petitions and when it
does, it may take up to six months or longer before the police would
respond and the verdict is usually neither here nor there," the
official stated.
However, the PSC Commissioner-in-Charge of Media, Comfort Obi, said
the commission had been holding meetings and enforcing discipline in
the Force, adding that all petitions are duly investigated and the
appropriate sanctions meted out to errant police officers.
"Even if you say we lack funds, we have been holding meetings and we
have promoted many officers and also punished errant ones this year;
in fact, I just stepped out of a meeting now," she told a source.
The Force Public Relations Officer, Emmanuel Ojukwu, would not agree
that policewomen are being harassed by senior male officers. He said
he had not heard of such cases in the police, but promised to sanction
any perpetrator of the act.
"Nigeria Police is concerned about the welfare of its officers. We
don't tolerate oppressive conduct in the Nigeria police, even if the
petition is against a CP, it would be investigated by the X-squad or
his superior officer," he maintained.
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